Joy was a home bunny. She found college a nightmare to start with and was horribly homesick- although she ploughed on through and got her teaching qualification. She was very close to her family- her parents, brother, sister, cousins, aunts and uncles.
Every summer the family went on holiday together, usually to Eastbourne, Margate or Broadstairs. Through her teenage years and into adulthood Joy always prioritised the family holiday and made sure she was there! After finishing college she moved home,
much to everyones delight, getting home just in time to support Penny starting high school. She stayed living at home for the following 5 years, moving to her own flat in Walthastow when she was 26.
Jackie, Joys cousin remembers:
'My mum Elmer was the baby of the family and there was a big age gap between her and Joys mum, my Aunty Rose. This meant there was also a big age gap between me and my cousins on mums side of the family, and Joy was 21 when I was born. I was about
3 when me and my sister went to stay with Auntie Rose, Uncle Jim and my cousins because mum was unwell with a bad bout of flu. I can remember sharing a bed with my sister and during one night I got out of the bed, which was higher than me, and went wandering
round the house. When I got back to the bed it was too high for me to climb back into! The house was scary at night and I recall sitting at the top of the stairs feeling cold (in the days before central heating!) and crying (probably because I wasn't sure
if I would be in trouble for getting out of bed!). Joy must have heard me and came to sit next to me, talked to me for a bit and soon cheered me up and got me laughing, before lifting me back up into the bed and staying until I was settled and OK.
It seems strange to remember something so ordinary in that much detail but for a young child away from home and from her mum, that simple act of kindness from my grown up cousin meant I felt safe and secure again.'
When her siblings had children she absolutely
doted on them. She would always visit with activities she had made herself. We have so many memories of her coming to all our birthday parties and teaching our buddies new games and songs. She literally was just the life and soul of the family.
my grandparents, she was just their 'Joy', and again was just so so central to their lives. She stayed with them regularly and was a best friend aswell as a daughter.